Just as each member of your family has his or her own individual spirit, the family or couple also has a spirit. That living spirit is what you feel when all of you are together, laughing at the dinner table, or when you and your partner catch each other’s eyes from across a crowded room. A family is bigger than just the sum of its parts. Sometimes the spirit of a family or couple gets sick or injured and it deserves care and support, just as each individual member does. My constant goal in family therapy is to create an environment in which we all come together on the same team to fight for the family as a whole. There is no longer “his side” and “her side,” there is only the side of the family. Together we wade through the mess and the pain to find hope and healing. Coming in for family therapy can often feel more vulnerable than coming in for individual therapy. I want you to know that when you get here no one will be “ganged up on”,  shamed or blamed. Therapy is a harbor in the storm for a hurting family system.